The Value of “Thank You”

There are certain times of the year when thankfulness seems more plentiful. Thanksgiving Day is a natural time to pause and count our blessings, while the Christmas holiday is a natural time to be thankful for the family, friends and celebrations that add meaning to our lives.

The rest of the year, most of us don’t say ‘thank you’ nearly enough.

I know the importance of those two little words, though. That’s why I make sure to say ‘thank you’ to all those who help me do what I do:

• Thank you for working alongside me.

• Thank you for your loyalty and belief in me.

• Thank you for your strength to get through the frustration and the tears.

• Thank you for your drive to work hard and be the best you can be.

• Thank you for your part in helping us grow by leaps and bounds.

Taking time out to let those around you know they are appreciated, that the work they do is noticed and valued, goes a long way. It can turn a promising newcomer into a top producer. It can make a committed team member really shine. It can make the people around you not just willing but eager to help you look your best.

Do you want to reach the top? Don’t forget to say ‘thank you’ along the way to those who are helping you achieve that goal.

Who can you thank today and for what? Don’t wait. Do it now.

Change Your Perception, Change Your Life

We’ve all heard it said that ‘perception is reality,’ but have you thought about the fact that a lot of the adversity we face in our lives is rooted in our perception?

So, what is perception? Perception, defined, is ‘the process of using the senses to acquire information about the surrounding environment or situation.’ It is also an impression, an attitude or understanding based on what is observed through your thoughts.

So, what is your perception of your career, your life, your finances? Is your perception part of the problem or part of the solution?

If your perception of the economy right now and anything that is happening in the world is that it’s all on the skids and that buying and investing in anything at this time is ludicrous, that is your reality. There is nothing I could say, no evidence I could present to change your perception or the resulting reality.

Now, 80 percent of Americans worry about things that never happen. But every now and then, out of all of those hundreds of things we worry about, one actually happens, confirming the perception that what you worry about will happen. But a vast majority of the time, we worry about things that never come to be.

That worry spills over to the people in our lives, creating perceptions in others that may or may not be reality based. Negativity breeds negativity. Hopefulness breeds hopefulness.

The other day, I was out with my children, riding bikes, when we came across one of our neighbor’s sons. This was the conversation that took place between the two boys:

“Hey! Did you get a new bike?” the five-year old neighbor kid asked.

“Yes,” answered my son, enthusiastically.

“I wanted a new bike, but I couldn’t get one because of the enonomy.”

The ‘enonomy’? How could a five-year-old kid know about the economic impact on his desire for a new bike? Somewhere in his house, his parent’s perception of the economy trickled down to him.

Think about this: In the past eight hours, what have you communicated about your life, about your career? Whatever industry you’re in—whatever role you’re filling at present—what kind of perception are you operating under? Are you approaching what you do with a positive outlook? Are you focusing on the problem or on the solution? And how do you relate your perception to others?

Times are tough. Challenges are part of the journey. But if you change your perception, it will change the reality of your life.

What’s holding you back?

Charles Schwab is dyslexic, but that didn’t stop him from achieving success in the business world through the investment firm that bears his name. The 55th richest person in the U.S. according to the 2008 Forbes 400 list, Schwab started a foundation that provides support, encouragement and resources for families impacted by learning disabilities.

Smile Thieves

People become what they think of themselves, good and bad.

It may sound strange to say so, but I want to talk about thieves. Not the bandit, shoplifter or pickpocket type, but the kind I like to call ‘smile thieves.’ We all know these people: You wake up happy and ready to conquer the day. You feel great, you look great. Then the smile thief appears and ruins your day with a comment like, ‘Isn’t that dress a little tight?’ or ‘What happened to your hair?’ These people rob you of your smile daily. They steal your confidence, your happiness and your zest for life on a regular basis.

Never give anyone the ability to change your day or mood. Challenges will come into your daily life and you will have to face them, but that’s different from willingly letting smile thieves wreak havoc. Often, these people are jealous of the happiness of others so they search for negatives in people like there is a reward for it.

People become what they think of themselves, good and bad. If you think of yourself as a beautiful, hard­working, successful individual and truly believe it, it will happen. If you see yourself as always struggling, living paycheck to paycheck, just getting by, that is what you will become.

You would never allow someone to reach in your pocket and steal money out of it, so why would you allow anyone to steal what is more important than money: your confidence. You have the power to make life great. If someone tries to change that with a negative comment, call them out on being a ‘smile thief.’

Whatever you do, don’t ever let anyone steal your smile.

5 or 53… It’s Easy

A smile is the most common facial expression and you can do it with as few as five pairs of facial muscles or as many as 53 (not surprisingly, it takes more effort to frown). Smiling also releases endorphins that make us feel better.

Write five affirmations that you can use each day to keep your confidence at an all time high.

The State and Art of Management

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By: Daniel Manginelli

“State of the Art.” When was the last time you heard that phrase? Maybe it was in reference to a high end electronic or a seriously attractive woman or man. However it was referenced, it’s always means ‘of the highest quality,’ which is always a good thing, isn’t it?

When it comes to business, and particularly when it comes to management, I like to stand that term on its end: There’s a state and an art to being a ‘state of the art’ manager. The challenge is having both: the ‘state,’ which is the skill set to manage, and ‘the art’ which is the natural ability to lead.

Twenty-one years ago, at the tender age of 20, I took on my first managerial role. I became a manager. Looking back, I was not only young, but I was immature. I had no idea what being a manger really meant. I was simply a high producer who got the green-light promotion, which is a standard practice to keep high producers sticking around. And I thought, “Yes! This is the next big step on the corporate ladder.”

So as many green managers do, I thought “I preformed at a high level, so I can just show my new employees what I did, and they all will be successful under my teaching.”

Big mistake. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

Each employee has a different motivation, different skills, and a different learning process. Knowing this is an essential part of ‘the state’ of being a great manager. Essential because if you plan to get the best performance out of each of your employees, you have to understand what makes them tick.

Great athletic coaches know how to get the best out of each player; they also know exactly where to put them, in what position, to get them to reach their full potential. The same applies to management.

The New Manager

There are different phases of management. The first phase is that of the new manager. The new manager takes a “positional approach.” He enjoys wielding his authority, telling people what to do. He takes pleasure in seeing the title ‘manager’ under his name. The new manager also tends to oversell what they know, attempting to add value by criticizing the jobs of others and letting everyone know how much he knows about everything in the company. The new manager spends his time focused on procedures, making organizational charts and trying to implement new policies that may or may not help his team.

Sound familiar?

The Manager As Advocate

The second phase of manager is “the advocate.” This is the stage where managers attempt to be partners with their team members. These managers often commiserate with their players, agreeing that company policies and procedures don’t make sense. They never really fix the issue. They run it up the chain of command, knowing it isn’t going to stick.

In this phase, the manager avoids confrontation and candor, using easy outs like “corporate said no” or “its company policy.”

From Manager To Leader

The third phase of management is the “value add” in business. This is the phase where you can make the transformation from manager to leader.

Each day this manager wakes up thinking ‘What can I do today to get the best from my team?’ This manager has taken the time to meet with each player on his team to find out his or her code.

Each of us has a code. The role of a great manager or leader is to de- code each employee, so he or she will WANT to perform at their highest level.

Most Americans have goals. Written or not, they have things they want to accomplish in their lives. The role of the great manager/leader is to figure out the individual strengths of his team players, to know their goals and to provide them with the tools and support they need to excel and reach those goals.

Tom Landry, legendary coach of the Dallas Cowboys, said “It is my job to get people to do what they don’t want to do, to have them achieve what they want to achieve.” Once you know the code of your employees, they will want to perform because their performance won’t be about impressing or pleasing you, it will be about reaching their own goals.

The Art of Leadership

As your quest to become a great manager continues, you should take advantage of every opportunity to learn what makes your team players tick. Always listening to what they say, looking for ‘the code.’

If you ask the right questions and really listen, they will begin to tell you what it takes to achieve their own ideas of success.

In order to be a better manager/leader, you have to first build a vision with your team that engages and motivates them. You’ll need their input to create such a vision. If they aren’t part of it, they won’t buy in. Most people need direction, not just for today, but for their future. It is your job, as a great manager to show them that direction and the plan to get there.

But before you can look outward on how to build loyalty and inspire your team, you need to look inward. Start by considering your own value to your employees. What do you bring to them each day to make them better? How is the company better with you as a manager?

After you write that list, you can begin to build a vision for your team that starts from the top down—your branch, your district, region, etc.). In my career, I have managed groups as small as five people up to a group as large as 200. The larger the group, the more challenging it is to communicate your vision effectively. You have to use every communications method at your disposal. Meetings, email, telephone… consistently and often. The quickest way to lose great employees is by not maintaining clear communication, especially when business is growing.

The vision you cast gives your entire team a sense of importance as individuals and as a unit. Everyone ‘gets’ the mission as a whole and knows his particular role. When all are working in the same direction toward a common goal, productivity will rise to new levels.

The State of Leadership

If you possess the natural ability to lead others, to inspire and motivate and set your team up for success knowing ‘their codes’ and casting a vision that they can get behind, that’s the biggest piece of the puzzle. The next question is, ‘Do you have the skill set to deliver what you say you can deliver?’

In other words, ‘Can you bring it?’

If your answer to that question is ‘Yes,’ here are seven essential skills or actions you simply must master.

1. Never ask or tell someone to do something that you wouldn’t do yourself. If it’s making calls or processing a file, you have to master that craft before you can ask others to do…. if you want their respect.

If you are a sales manager, make some cold calls in front of your employees. Not only will you get their attention and respect, but you’ll help train them for future calls. If you are just telling people what to do, they won’t respect the messenger. If they don’t respect the messenger, they won’t respect the message.

2. Recognize and reward your team. We all want to feel recognized for our performance. A simple email saying “You are doing a great job” or an ‘Employee of the Month’ certificate goes a long way. Recognizing the effort and work ethic of your team makes each one feel that you care about them as people.  Most people don’t care how much you know, they care how much you care. If you show you care, you will inspire them to perform, not because of who you are, but for you and the team.

3. Never oversell yourself or idea. You don’t have to come in letting everyone know your accomplishment, awards and victories. Trust me, people will figure out what you are all about, and a little humility goes along way. Boasting will only show insecurities. You have been put in a leadership position for a reason. There is no need to hammer home the reasons why. If you’re ‘state and the art’ they already know.

Overselling an idea is very dangerous if you are not the final decision maker. Get approval for that golden idea from the powers that be before you get your team excited. If you don’t, you will lose creditability.

4. Never sell something you don’t believe in. If you do, it will be obvious to the people who believe in you. If the company makes a change that you can’t believe in, you have to ask yourself “Is this the right thing for my people?’ and ‘Will it de-value my leadership by accepting it?’

You can’t go through life just showing up to a job if you really feel it is the wrong choice. Talk to upper management and let them know you’re feeling. Trust your instincts, and do what is right for yourself. It doesn’t matter where you are employed; people follow great leadership. You must say what you mean and mean what you say.

If you have the respect of your people, you can tell them when they are not living up to expectations. You are only hurting the employee by not evaluating a poor performance. It might sting at first, but I believe most people want to improve. They just need the plan.

Daniel J. Manginelli, III is a speaker and author of the book, “Wake Up! Jumpstart The Life You’ve Always Had In Mind” and founder/owner of The Manginelli Group (www.manginelligroup.com). As current Vice President of Retail Production at Pacific Mercantile Bank (Costa Mesa, CA | Stock Symbol: PMBC), Dan coaches and mentors thousands of sales people, while inspiring and motivating them to perform at higher levels in life. Enlightening people that no matter what you do, there is always a fun way to do it.

Making Tough Decisions

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Let me start by saying, the right thing to do usually isn’t the easy thing to do. The easy thing would be to not change because the near future is all you see in front of you. It all seems ok and there is no pain. You may not like it, but you say things like, “I can live with that” or “it’s not that bad”. That’s the beginning of compromising your life and your happiness. It’s a rare person that sees three months, six months or one year into the future. They have a certain capability to see the future and opportunity set before them and others as well. Most successful people in the world have the ability to see the change before it happens. There is an art to making tough decisions. First you have to commit to a time frame to make the decision. If you don’t you will live in a state of uncertainty and turmoil. You must say to yourself something like, “in two months I will have a decision made.” Second, look at all your options for today and for the future. This is important because our nature is that we don’t want to let people down or worry about what people will think of us if we make the wrong decision. If you don’t take a chance and make the hard decisions you will continue to be in the same place, the same job, doing the same thing, living life with the question, what if. Third, you have to commit to your decision. You can’t go into life changing decisions trying it out. After you look at all the pros and cons and you’ve made your decision you have to commit to it. If not you will always just be trying new stuff and never giving 100 percent. You will just give enough to tell yourself you gave it a shot.

Harry S. Truman once said, “All my life, whenever it comes time to making a decision, I make it and forget about it.”

Let’s face it; most people don’t like being decision makers. We all like the plan to be laid out for us so that we call follow. That’s why there are managers and leaders. But there will come a day if hasn’t already that you will have to be the manager and eventually the leader to yourself! If not you will continue to follow until the day someone is standing at podium talking about what a great person you where! Life is short. There are times you really have to make decisions for yourself and the people closest to you. Stop avoiding the confrontation of decision making and follow these three easy steps to your happiness. Life is too short not to be happy!

It’s All In Your Head

The following is an excerpt from the book WAKE UP!

When I try to think ‘big picture’ about what makes people successful in business or in life, the first and most obvious part of the ‘big picture’ to me is this: It’s all in your head!

Meaning, it’s what’s in your head that sabotages you. Our minds are powerful tools that can be used to both imprison and free us. To be successful, we have to be mentally strong enough to respond to whatever happens in a positive, pro-active way. Mental toughness is a process. It just doesn’t happen overnight. It’s like any kind of strength training. You start out slowly, with smaller weights. You learn to pick and choose the options that work best for you, where you are.

When something terrible or unexpected happens, you may be prone to thinking, “You know, that’s just my luck. Stuff like this always happens to me.” Or, even when things are rolling along smoothly, you may be one of those worriers—that person who always assumes the worst will happen in any given situation. Self-image is a tough thing for all of us. We all have our own insecurities, our own sense of inadequacy, even failure. And if you really just want to try to hold on to what you have, that negative self-image will always speak louder in your head than anything else. People with half your ability will accomplish more in life only because they believe better things about themselves. Their perception makes for a more successful reality.

The beginning of mental conditioning is training yourself to recognize and acknowledge the strengths you already have. Everyone says, ‘If I could just live up to my potential,’ but to be honest, I don’t buy that. We’re always looking for abilities we wish we had, rather than recognizing the gifts and skills we already have. Why do you suppose that is?

Everybody’s afraid of what others think. When you close your eyes, that person is in your head, saying what you think they think about you (and it’s never good). We’re always afraid that someone’s going to pull the curtain back and find out we don’t know as much as we think we know. That somehow we’re not as accomplished, smart or successful as they are.

Even when all the talent and know-how and drive and determination is already there to succeed, just a whiff of fear will kill it before it even begins. That’s why it’s essential to ‘retrain’ your mind to work FOR you, not against you. Train it to take the time to gain perspective, to respond, not to react. To think: ‘What are my options here?’

Whatever the situation—whether it’s personal relationship trouble or challenges in business—you always have options. Mentally, you lay it all out: What do I really want to do? What is the best way to respond to get what I want? What will be the best scenario short-term? Long term? Each option comes with a given consequence, so you train yourself to think through those as well. Some of the consequences automatically rule out the option. Once you narrow down the options, keeping ‘mind over matter’ means you learn to play to your best strength and go with the option you know you’ll be best at, the response that will work best for you.

If you see yourself as a person who already has the talent and skill and drive and determination to get things done…If underneath all that is a fundamental belief that you deserve to succeed in everything you work hard at…How and where and who you envision yourself to be is how and where and who you are…and will be.

Always…

be willing to try…

be actively learning…

lead by example…

believe you add value to whatever you do…

be open…

be contagious…

Is this you? If not, begin each day retraining yourself to think, speak and act in affirming, intentional and positive ways. To change your perspective is to change your life.

What are the voices in your head saying? And how do you need to change them?

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